TTC Timeline

January 2012: married C…twice (once in a traditional Vietnamese ceremony, then again that afternoon in a Catholic wedding ceremony)

March 2012: ‘pulled the goalie’ on a ski trip in Utah, but didn’t tell anyone we were TTC

April 2012: read ‘Taking Charge of Your Fertility’ and began charting BBT and CM

May 2012: BFP in our first try at charting; sent a photo of HPT to my family the next day; my dad posted it on Facebook(!), then took it down after getting an earful from me about the risk of m/c…

late May-early June 2012: belated honeymoon in Ireland; I passed on the Irish whiskey and Guinness

June 2012: no heartbeat at 8 week ultrasound; miscarried naturally at 9 weeks (while staying with my in-laws in San Jose for a friend’s wedding…awkward!); sad, but comforted by the knowledge ‘at least we know we can get pregnant’

July 2012: didn’t ovulate

August 2012: ovulated 10 days late (and missed the window…)

September – December 2012: attempted timed intercourse in phases (Phase 1: charting BBT & CM; Phase 2: charting + OPKs; Phase 3: charting + OPKs + Clearblue Fertility Monitor)

January 2013: appointment with RE (Dr. Y); C is diagnosed as sperm superstar; I’m diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve – or as I prefer to call it ‘ovaries of a 45-year-old’

March 2013: C was in a nasty injury accident that interfered with our last chance at the old-fashioned way; I did my ‘homework‘ for medicated IUI (including injections class and HSG)

April 2013: IUI with Menopur (300-375 IU), BFN

May 2013: rest month, and IVF ‘homework‘ to (hopefully) start stims in June!

June 2013: low-stim IVF (Menopur, 150 IU + Clomid 100 mg), retrieved 3 eggs, 1 fertilized, arrested prior to transfer 😦

July – September 2013: taking supplements to improve egg quality

July 2013: natural cycle IUI, BFN

August 2013: natural cycle IUI foiled when I ovulated out of state

September 2013: spontaneous BFP (from the IUI-cycle-that-wasn’t). Say what?!

May 2014: gave birth to our rainbow baby, C. Samuel

March 2015: Stopped pumping, because it totally sucks and because we didn’t want to wait too long to try for #2

April 2015: AF returned after 20 months away (turns out I didn’t miss her one bit), repeated my CD3 bloodwork

May 2015: visited with Dr. Y to discuss trying for #2, resumed BBT charting and OPKs, BFN

June 2015: natural cycle IUI (missed trigger), BFN

July 2015: natural cycle IUI w/ hCG trigger, BFN

August 2015: missed window for IUI, BD instead on day of +OPK, BFN

October 2015: natural cycle IUI w/ hCG trigger, BFN

November 2015: natural cycle IUI w/ hCG trigger, BFP!

July 24, 2016: our daughter Jane Margaret was stillborn at 40 weeks 6 days

August 2016: follow up appointment with Dr. R

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  1. Wendy

     /  December 6, 2013

    Interesting and very informative website! Thank you for compiling all this information. I’m curious what happened – if your BFP was successful. I hope so.

    Thanks again
    Wendy Tracy.

    • Hi Wendy,
      Thank you for your interest in my little blog! So far so good on the BFP. I’m at 20 weeks now, and even feel some kicks!

      • Wendy

         /  January 10, 2014

        Congrats on your baby!
        I was intrigued by the supplements you were taking, specifically DHEA. Do you feel any of them helped you to get pregnant?

      • I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to reply to this…

        To tell you the truth, I have no idea whether any of them helped. The science behind them is quite thin (see: for my research on DHEA; there was even less evidence out there for the other supplements…) There’s also a lot to say for random chance (I wrote about that here: Since becoming pregnant, I’ve also come to believe that prayer may have played a role, as one of the most common responses I’ve heard from people who learn of our pregnancy is, “a lot of prayers went into that!”

        Maybe a more revealing question is, ‘what do I plan to do when we’re ready to try for #2?’…And the answer is: All of the above. As soon as I’m done breastfeeding (assuming I can breastfeed), I intend to start taking the whole laundry list of supplements (wheatgrass juice and nanogreens and all); if I can find the time as a new mom, I’ll exercise and go to acupuncture; I’ll chart and use OPKs and my CBFM to time intercourse every month (to give us as many chances as possible); and C and I will ask our friends and family for their prayers and well-wishes…

        And then we’ll try our best to strike a balance between being hopeful for another, and intensely grateful for the miracle we’ve already been blessed with…

        Hope that helps!

  2. Megan

     /  January 6, 2014

    I hope you are doing well.

    • Thank you for checking up on me, and I’m so sorry for the long silence! All is well. I just posted an update to fill everyone in on the last 7 weeks or so!

  3. Wendy

     /  January 21, 2014

    Thank you very much for sharing your story and helpful information!
    I will be 45 in March and I guess I’m having a hard time letting go to “fertile years”. I have 2 sons (4 year old and 3 year old). I was 40/41 when I had them!! By the grace of God, we got pregnant naturally. I’m just sad that we didn’t have a girl as well and I feel like I’m moving on to a new phase of life of no longer being able to have another child.
    I am taking a few supplements, maca root and melatonin when I remember. I read maca root is a super food, other than just fertility.
    I agree with you, prayers are probably the best answer and what God’s plan is for us. I’m not overly religious, but it seems like I always find this same answer whenever I really think deeply about it.

  4. Hopeful

     /  October 6, 2014

    hi do you have an email address I could contact you ?

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